diff --git a/src/components/layouts/AppShell.tsx b/src/components/layouts/AppShell.tsx
index 3f82958..d82bbb9 100644
--- a/src/components/layouts/AppShell.tsx
+++ b/src/components/layouts/AppShell.tsx
@@ -2,6 +2,7 @@ import { useState, useEffect, ReactNode } from "react";
 import { Terminal } from "lucide-react";
 import { useAccountSync } from "@/hooks/useAccountSync";
 import { useRelayListCacheSync } from "@/hooks/useRelayListCacheSync";
+import { useDMRelayListCacheSync } from "@/hooks/useDMRelayListCacheSync";
 import { useBlossomServerCacheSync } from "@/hooks/useBlossomServerCacheSync";
 import { useRelayState } from "@/hooks/useRelayState";
 import relayStateManager from "@/services/relay-state-manager";
@@ -26,6 +27,9 @@ export function AppShell({ children, hideBottomBar = false }: AppShellProps) {
   // Auto-cache kind:10002 relay lists from EventStore to Dexie
   useRelayListCacheSync();
 
+  // Auto-cache kind:10050 DM relay lists from EventStore to Dexie
+  useDMRelayListCacheSync();
+
   // Auto-cache kind:10063 blossom server lists from EventStore to Dexie
   useBlossomServerCacheSync();
 
diff --git a/src/components/nostr/user-menu.tsx b/src/components/nostr/user-menu.tsx
index 972810a..6c48b33 100644
--- a/src/components/nostr/user-menu.tsx
+++ b/src/components/nostr/user-menu.tsx
@@ -1,4 +1,4 @@
-import { User, HardDrive, Palette, Mail } from "lucide-react";
+import { User, HardDrive, Palette, Mail, Lock } from "lucide-react";
 import accounts from "@/services/accounts";
 import { useProfile } from "@/hooks/useProfile";
 import { use$ } from "applesauce-react/hooks";
@@ -7,6 +7,7 @@ import { useGrimoire } from "@/core/state";
 import { Button } from "@/components/ui/button";
 import { useLiveQuery } from "dexie-react-hooks";
 import giftWrapLoader from "@/services/gift-wrap-loader";
+import { dmRelayListCache } from "@/services/dm-relay-list-cache";
 import {
   DropdownMenu,
   DropdownMenuContent,
@@ -64,6 +65,12 @@ export default function UserMenu() {
   const [showSettings, setShowSettings] = useState(false);
   const [showLogin, setShowLogin] = useState(false);
   const { themeId, setTheme, availableThemes } = useTheme();
+  // Get DM relays (kind 10050) for active user
+  const dmRelays = useLiveQuery(async () => {
+    if (!account?.pubkey) return null;
+    const relays = await dmRelayListCache.get(account.pubkey);
+    return relays.length > 0 ? relays : null;
+  }, [account?.pubkey]);
 
   // Get pending gift wrap count
   const pendingCount = useLiveQuery(async () => {
@@ -143,6 +150,26 @@ export default function UserMenu() {
                 </>
               )}
 
+              {dmRelays && dmRelays.length > 0 && (
+                <>
+                  <DropdownMenuSeparator />
+                  <DropdownMenuGroup>
+                    <DropdownMenuLabel className="text-xs text-muted-foreground font-normal flex items-center gap-1.5">
+                      <Lock className="size-3.5" />
+                      <span>Private Inbox Relays</span>
+                    </DropdownMenuLabel>
+                    {dmRelays.map((relay) => (
+                      <DropdownMenuItem
+                        key={relay}
+                        className="text-sm truncate"
+                      >
+                        <RelayLink url={relay} />
+                      </DropdownMenuItem>
+                    ))}
+                  </DropdownMenuGroup>
+                </>
+              )}
+
               {blossomServers && blossomServers.length > 0 && (
                 <>
                   <DropdownMenuSeparator />
diff --git a/src/hooks/useDMRelayListCacheSync.ts b/src/hooks/useDMRelayListCacheSync.ts
new file mode 100644
index 0000000..4f3bec0
--- /dev/null
+++ b/src/hooks/useDMRelayListCacheSync.ts
@@ -0,0 +1,24 @@
+/**
+ * Hook to keep DM relay list cache in sync with EventStore
+ *
+ * Subscribes to kind:10050 events and automatically caches them in Dexie.
+ * Should be used once at app root level.
+ */
+
+import { useEffect } from "react";
+import { useEventStore } from "applesauce-react/hooks";
+import { dmRelayListCache } from "@/services/dm-relay-list-cache";
+
+export function useDMRelayListCacheSync() {
+  const eventStore = useEventStore();
+
+  useEffect(() => {
+    // Subscribe to EventStore for auto-caching
+    dmRelayListCache.subscribeToEventStore(eventStore);
+
+    // Cleanup on unmount
+    return () => {
+      dmRelayListCache.unsubscribe();
+    };
+  }, [eventStore]);
+}
diff --git a/src/services/db.ts b/src/services/db.ts
index d65d0d6..3e33312 100644
--- a/src/services/db.ts
+++ b/src/services/db.ts
@@ -45,6 +45,13 @@ export interface CachedRelayList {
   updatedAt: number;
 }
 
+export interface CachedDMRelayList {
+  pubkey: string;
+  event: NostrEvent;
+  relays: string[]; // DM inbox relays from kind 10050
+  updatedAt: number;
+}
+
 export interface RelayLivenessEntry {
   url: string;
   state: "online" | "offline" | "dead";
@@ -140,6 +147,7 @@ class GrimoireDb extends Dexie {
   relayInfo!: Table<RelayInfo>;
   relayAuthPreferences!: Table<RelayAuthPreference>;
   relayLists!: Table<CachedRelayList>;
+  dmRelayLists!: Table<CachedDMRelayList>;
   relayLiveness!: Table<RelayLivenessEntry>;
   blossomServers!: Table<CachedBlossomServerList>;
   spells!: Table<LocalSpell>;
@@ -404,6 +412,26 @@ class GrimoireDb extends Dexie {
       conversations:
         "&id, recipientPubkey, [recipientPubkey+lastMessageCreatedAt]",
     });
+
+    // Version 17: Add DM relay list cache (kind 10050)
+    this.version(17).stores({
+      profiles: "&pubkey",
+      nip05: "&nip05",
+      nips: "&id",
+      relayInfo: "&url",
+      relayAuthPreferences: "&url",
+      relayLists: "&pubkey, updatedAt",
+      dmRelayLists: "&pubkey, updatedAt", // NIP-17 DM relay lists (kind 10050)
+      relayLiveness: "&url",
+      blossomServers: "&pubkey, updatedAt",
+      spells: "&id, alias, createdAt, isPublished, deletedAt",
+      spellbooks: "&id, slug, title, createdAt, isPublished, deletedAt",
+      giftWraps: "&id, recipientPubkey, [recipientPubkey+status], receivedAt",
+      decryptedRumors:
+        "&giftWrapId, recipientPubkey, senderPubkey, [senderPubkey+rumorCreatedAt], [recipientPubkey+senderPubkey], rumorCreatedAt",
+      conversations:
+        "&id, recipientPubkey, [recipientPubkey+lastMessageCreatedAt]",
+    });
   }
 }
 
diff --git a/src/services/dm-relay-list-cache.ts b/src/services/dm-relay-list-cache.ts
new file mode 100644
index 0000000..bed407e
--- /dev/null
+++ b/src/services/dm-relay-list-cache.ts
@@ -0,0 +1,271 @@
+/**
+ * DM Relay List Cache Service
+ *
+ * Caches NIP-17 DM relay lists (kind:10050) in Dexie for fast access.
+ * Fetches from user's relays + discovery relays when not in cache.
+ *
+ * Auto-caches kind:10050 events from EventStore when subscribed.
+ */
+
+import type { NostrEvent } from "@/types/nostr";
+import { normalizeRelayURL } from "@/lib/relay-url";
+import db, { CachedDMRelayList } from "./db";
+import type { IEventStore } from "applesauce-core/event-store";
+import type { Subscription } from "rxjs";
+import pool from "./relay-pool";
+import { relayListCache } from "./relay-list-cache";
+import { AGGREGATOR_RELAYS } from "./loaders";
+
+const CACHE_TTL = 24 * 60 * 60 * 1000; // 24 hours
+
+class DMRelayListCache {
+  private eventStoreSubscription: Subscription | null = null;
+  private memoryCache = new Map<string, CachedDMRelayList>();
+
+  /**
+   * Subscribe to EventStore to auto-cache kind:10050 events
+   */
+  subscribeToEventStore(eventStore: IEventStore): void {
+    if (this.eventStoreSubscription) {
+      console.warn("[DMRelayListCache] Already subscribed to EventStore");
+      return;
+    }
+
+    // Subscribe to kind:10050 events
+    this.eventStoreSubscription = eventStore
+      .filters({ kinds: [10050] })
+      .subscribe((event: NostrEvent) => {
+        // Cache each kind:10050 event as it arrives
+        void this.set(event);
+      });
+
+    console.log(
+      "[DMRelayListCache] Subscribed to EventStore for kind:10050 events",
+    );
+  }
+
+  /**
+   * Unsubscribe from EventStore
+   */
+  unsubscribe(): void {
+    if (this.eventStoreSubscription) {
+      this.eventStoreSubscription.unsubscribe();
+      this.eventStoreSubscription = null;
+      console.log("[DMRelayListCache] Unsubscribed from EventStore");
+    }
+  }
+
+  /**
+   * Get cached DM relay list for a pubkey
+   * If not cached or stale, fetches from relays
+   */
+  async get(pubkey: string): Promise<string[]> {
+    // Check memory cache first
+    const memCached = this.memoryCache.get(pubkey);
+    if (memCached && Date.now() - memCached.updatedAt < CACHE_TTL) {
+      console.debug(
+        `[DMRelayListCache] Memory cache hit for ${pubkey.slice(0, 8)}`,
+      );
+      return memCached.relays;
+    }
+
+    // Check Dexie cache
+    try {
+      const cached = await db.dmRelayLists.get(pubkey);
+      if (cached && Date.now() - cached.updatedAt < CACHE_TTL) {
+        console.debug(
+          `[DMRelayListCache] Dexie cache hit for ${pubkey.slice(0, 8)}`,
+        );
+        this.memoryCache.set(pubkey, cached);
+        return cached.relays;
+      }
+    } catch (error) {
+      console.error(
+        `[DMRelayListCache] Error reading cache for ${pubkey.slice(0, 8)}:`,
+        error,
+      );
+    }
+
+    // Cache miss - fetch from relays
+    console.log(
+      `[DMRelayListCache] Cache miss for ${pubkey.slice(0, 8)}, fetching from relays`,
+    );
+    return this.fetchAndCache(pubkey);
+  }
+
+  /**
+   * Fetch kind 10050 from relays and cache it
+   */
+  private async fetchAndCache(pubkey: string): Promise<string[]> {
+    try {
+      // Get user's outbox relays to query for their kind 10050
+      let queryRelays = await relayListCache.getOutboxRelays(pubkey);
+
+      // If no outbox relays, use aggregator relays
+      if (!queryRelays || queryRelays.length === 0) {
+        console.log(
+          `[DMRelayListCache] No outbox relays for ${pubkey.slice(0, 8)}, using aggregator relays`,
+        );
+        queryRelays = AGGREGATOR_RELAYS;
+      } else {
+        // Add aggregator relays for better discovery
+        queryRelays = [...queryRelays, ...AGGREGATOR_RELAYS];
+      }
+
+      console.log(
+        `[DMRelayListCache] Fetching kind 10050 for ${pubkey.slice(0, 8)} from ${queryRelays.length} relays`,
+      );
+
+      // Fetch kind 10050 from relays
+      const filter = {
+        kinds: [10050],
+        authors: [pubkey],
+        limit: 1,
+      };
+
+      // Use pool.subscription to fetch from relays
+      const obs = pool.subscription(queryRelays, [filter], {});
+
+      return new Promise((resolve) => {
+        let resolved = false;
+        const timeout = setTimeout(() => {
+          if (!resolved) {
+            resolved = true;
+            console.warn(
+              `[DMRelayListCache] Timeout fetching kind 10050 for ${pubkey.slice(0, 8)}`,
+            );
+            resolve([]);
+          }
+        }, 5000); // 5 second timeout
+
+        const sub = obs.subscribe({
+          next: (response) => {
+            if (typeof response === "string") {
+              // EOSE received
+              if (!resolved) {
+                resolved = true;
+                clearTimeout(timeout);
+                console.log(
+                  `[DMRelayListCache] EOSE - no kind 10050 found for ${pubkey.slice(0, 8)}`,
+                );
+                sub.unsubscribe();
+                resolve([]);
+              }
+            } else {
+              // Event received
+              const event = response as NostrEvent;
+              if (
+                !resolved &&
+                event.kind === 10050 &&
+                event.pubkey === pubkey
+              ) {
+                resolved = true;
+                clearTimeout(timeout);
+                sub.unsubscribe();
+
+                // Cache the event
+                void this.set(event);
+
+                // Parse relays from event
+                const relays = event.tags
+                  .filter((t) => t[0] === "relay" && t[1])
+                  .map((t) => t[1]);
+
+                console.log(
+                  `[DMRelayListCache] Found kind 10050 for ${pubkey.slice(0, 8)} with ${relays.length} relays`,
+                );
+                resolve(relays);
+              }
+            }
+          },
+          error: (err) => {
+            if (!resolved) {
+              resolved = true;
+              clearTimeout(timeout);
+              console.error(
+                `[DMRelayListCache] Subscription error for ${pubkey.slice(0, 8)}:`,
+                err,
+              );
+              resolve([]);
+            }
+          },
+          complete: () => {
+            if (!resolved) {
+              resolved = true;
+              clearTimeout(timeout);
+              resolve([]);
+            }
+          },
+        });
+      });
+    } catch (error) {
+      console.error(
+        `[DMRelayListCache] Error fetching kind 10050 for ${pubkey.slice(0, 8)}:`,
+        error,
+      );
+      return [];
+    }
+  }
+
+  /**
+   * Store DM relay list event in cache
+   */
+  async set(event: NostrEvent): Promise<void> {
+    try {
+      if (event.kind !== 10050) {
+        console.warn(
+          `[DMRelayListCache] Attempted to cache non-10050 event (kind ${event.kind})`,
+        );
+        return;
+      }
+
+      // Parse relays from event tags
+      const relays = event.tags
+        .filter((t) => t[0] === "relay" && t[1])
+        .map((t) => t[1]);
+
+      // Normalize URLs and filter invalid ones
+      const normalizedRelays = relays
+        .map((url) => {
+          try {
+            return normalizeRelayURL(url);
+          } catch {
+            console.warn(`[DMRelayListCache] Invalid relay URL: ${url}`);
+            return null;
+          }
+        })
+        .filter((url): url is string => url !== null);
+
+      // Store in Dexie and memory cache
+      const cachedEntry: CachedDMRelayList = {
+        pubkey: event.pubkey,
+        event,
+        relays: normalizedRelays,
+        updatedAt: Date.now(),
+      };
+
+      await db.dmRelayLists.put(cachedEntry);
+      this.memoryCache.set(event.pubkey, cachedEntry);
+
+      console.debug(
+        `[DMRelayListCache] Cached DM relay list for ${event.pubkey.slice(0, 8)} (${normalizedRelays.length} relays)`,
+      );
+    } catch (error) {
+      console.error(
+        `[DMRelayListCache] Error caching DM relay list for ${event.pubkey.slice(0, 8)}:`,
+        error,
+      );
+    }
+  }
+
+  /**
+   * Clear all cached DM relay lists
+   */
+  async clearAll(): Promise<void> {
+    await db.dmRelayLists.clear();
+    this.memoryCache.clear();
+    console.log("[DMRelayListCache] Cleared all cached DM relay lists");
+  }
+}
+
+export const dmRelayListCache = new DMRelayListCache();
diff --git a/src/services/gift-wrap-loader.ts b/src/services/gift-wrap-loader.ts
index 585eeb1..b72eb8f 100644
--- a/src/services/gift-wrap-loader.ts
+++ b/src/services/gift-wrap-loader.ts
@@ -22,6 +22,7 @@ import { createTimelineLoader } from "applesauce-loaders/loaders";
 import pool from "./relay-pool";
 import eventStore from "./event-store";
 import { relayListCache } from "./relay-list-cache";
+import { dmRelayListCache } from "./dm-relay-list-cache";
 import { processGiftWrap, getPendingGiftWraps } from "./gift-wrap";
 import db from "./db";
 
@@ -368,33 +369,31 @@ class GiftWrapLoader {
    * Gets DM relays for a user (kind 10050 per NIP-17)
    */
   private async getInboxRelays(pubkey: string): Promise<string[]> {
-    // Try to get from event store - kind 10050 DM relay list
-    const event = eventStore.getReplaceable(10050, pubkey, "");
-    if (event) {
-      // Parse relay URLs from tags
-      const relays = event.tags
-        .filter((t) => t[0] === "relay" && t[1])
-        .map((t) => t[1]);
+    // Try to get kind 10050 DM relay list (NIP-17)
+    // This will fetch from relays if not in cache
+    const dmRelays = await dmRelayListCache.get(pubkey);
 
-      if (relays.length > 0) {
-        return relays;
-      }
+    if (dmRelays && dmRelays.length > 0) {
+      console.log(
+        `[GiftWrapLoader] Using ${dmRelays.length} DM relays from kind 10050`,
+      );
+      return dmRelays;
     }
 
-    // Fallback: try inbox relays from kind 10002
-    let relays = await relayListCache.getInboxRelays(pubkey);
+    // Fallback: try inbox relays from kind 10002 (NIP-65)
+    const inboxRelays = await relayListCache.getInboxRelays(pubkey);
 
-    if (!relays || relays.length === 0) {
-      // Try to get from event store
-      const fallbackEvent = eventStore.getReplaceable(10002, pubkey, "");
-      if (fallbackEvent) {
-        // Cache it
-        relayListCache.set(fallbackEvent);
-        relays = await relayListCache.getInboxRelays(pubkey);
-      }
+    if (inboxRelays && inboxRelays.length > 0) {
+      console.log(
+        `[GiftWrapLoader] Fallback to ${inboxRelays.length} inbox relays from kind 10002`,
+      );
+      return inboxRelays;
     }
 
-    return relays || [];
+    console.warn(
+      `[GiftWrapLoader] No DM relays or inbox relays found for ${pubkey.slice(0, 8)}`,
+    );
+    return [];
   }
 
   /**