[p2p] overhaul TxOrphanage with smarter limits

This is largely a reimplementation using boost::multi_index_container.
All the same public methods are available. It has an index by outpoint,
per-peer tracking, peer worksets, etc.

A few differences:
- Limits have changed: instead of a global limit of 100 unique orphans,
  we have a maximum number of announcements (which can include duplicate
orphans) and a global memory limit which scales with the number of
peers.
- The maximum announcements limit is 100 to match the original limit,
  but this is actually a stricter limit because the announcement count
is not de-duplicated.
- Eviction strategy: when global limits are reached, a per-peer limit
  comes into play. While limits are exceeded, we choose the peer whose
“DoS score” (max usage / limit ratio for announcements and memory
limits) is highest and evict announcements by entry time, sorting
non-reconsiderable ones before reconsiderable ones. Since announcements
are unique by (wtxid, peer), as long as 1 announcement remains for a
transaction, it remains in the orphanage.
- This eviction strategy means no peer can influence the eviction of
  another peer’s orphans.
- Also, since global limits are a multiple of per-peer limits, as long
  as a peer does not exceed its limits, its orphans are protected from
eviction.
- Orphans no longer expire, since older announcements are generally
  removed before newer ones.
- GetChildrenFromSamePeer returns the transactions from newest to
  oldest.

Co-authored-by: Pieter Wuille <pieter@wuille.net>

src/node/txdownloadman_impl.cpp

@@ -188,6 +188,7 @@ bool TxDownloadManagerImpl::AddTxAnnouncement(NodeId peer, const GenTxid& gtxid,
 
             if (MaybeAddOrphanResolutionCandidate(unique_parents, *wtxid, peer, now)) {
                 m_orphanage->AddAnnouncer(orphan_tx->GetWitnessHash(), peer);
+                m_orphanage->LimitOrphans(m_opts.m_rng);
             }
 
             // Return even if the peer isn't an orphan resolution candidate. This would be caught by AlreadyHaveTx.
@@ -420,8 +421,6 @@ node::RejectedTxTodo TxDownloadManagerImpl::MempoolRejectedTx(const CTransaction
                 m_txrequest.ForgetTxHash(tx.GetWitnessHash());
 
                 // DoS prevention: do not allow m_orphanage to grow unbounded (see CVE-2012-3789)
-                // Note that, if the orphanage reaches capacity, it's possible that we immediately evict
-                // the transaction we just added.
                 m_orphanage->LimitOrphans(m_opts.m_rng);
             } else {
                 unique_parents.clear();