Merge bitcoin/bitcoin#25325: Add pool based memory resource

9f947fc3d4 Use PoolAllocator for CCoinsMap (Martin Leitner-Ankerl)
5e4ac5abf5 Call ReallocateCache() on each Flush() (Martin Leitner-Ankerl)
1afca6b663 Add PoolResource fuzzer (Martin Leitner-Ankerl)
e19943f049 Calculate memory usage correctly for unordered_maps that use PoolAllocator (Martin Leitner-Ankerl)
b8401c3281 Add pool based memory resource & allocator (Martin Leitner-Ankerl)

Pull request description:

  A memory resource similar to `std::pmr::unsynchronized_pool_resource`, but optimized for node-based containers. The goal is to be able to cache more coins with the same memory usage, and allocate/deallocate faster.

  This is a reimplementation of #22702. The goal was to implement it in a way that is simpler to review & test

  * There is now a generic `PoolResource` for allocating/deallocating memory. This has practically the same API as `std::pmr::memory_resource`. (Unfortunately I cannot use std::pmr because libc++ simply doesn't implement that API).
  * Thanks to sipa there is now a fuzzer for PoolResource! On a fast machine I ran it for ~770 million executions without finding any issue.

  * The estimation of the correct node size is now gone, PoolResource now has multiple pools and just needs to be created large enough to have space for the unordered_map nodes.

  I ran benchmarks with #22702, mergebase, and this PR. Frequency locked Intel i7-8700, clang++ 13.0.1 to reindex up to block 690000.

  ```sh
  bitcoind -dbcache=5000 -assumevalid=00000000000000000002a23d6df20eecec15b21d32c75833cce28f113de888b7 -reindex-chainstate -printtoconsole=0 -stopatheight=690000
  ```

  The performance is practically identical with #22702, just 0.4% slower. It's ~21% faster than master:

  ![Progress in Million Transactions over Time(2)](https://user-images.githubusercontent.com/14386/173288685-91952ade-f304-4825-8bfb-0725a71ca17b.png)

  ![Size of Cache in MiB over Time](https://user-images.githubusercontent.com/14386/173291421-e6b410be-ac77-479b-ad24-5fafcebf81eb.png)
  Note that on cache drops mergebase's memory doesnt go so far down because it does not free the `CCoinsMap` bucket array.

  ![Size of Cache in Million tx over Time(1)](https://user-images.githubusercontent.com/14386/173288703-a80c9c9e-93c8-4a16-9df8-610c89c61cc4.png)

ACKs for top commit:
  LarryRuane:
    ACK 9f947fc3d4
  achow101:
    re-ACK 9f947fc3d4
  john-moffett:
    ACK 9f947fc3d4
  jonatack:
    re-ACK 9f947fc3d4

Tree-SHA512: 48caf57d1775875a612b54388ef64c53952cd48741cacfe20d89049f2fb35301b5c28e69264b7d659a3ca33d4c714d47bafad6fd547c4075f08b45acc87c0f45

src/validation.cpp

@@ -4931,7 +4931,6 @@ bool Chainstate::ResizeCoinsCaches(size_t coinstip_size, size_t coinsdb_size)
     } else {
         // Otherwise, flush state to disk and deallocate the in-memory coins map.
         ret = FlushStateToDisk(state, FlushStateMode::ALWAYS);
-        CoinsTip().ReallocateCache();
     }
     return ret;
 }