bugfix: correct DisconnectedBlockTransactions memory usage

With `queuedTx` owning the `CTransactionRef` shared ptrs, they (and
the managed objects) are entirely allocated on the heap. In
`DisconnectedBlockTransactions::DynamicMemoryUsage`, we account for
the 2 pointers that make up the shared_ptr, but not for the managed
object (CTransaction) or the control block.

Prior to this commit, by calculating the `RecursiveDynamicUsage` on
a `CTransaction` whenever modifying `cachedInnerUsage`, we account
for the dynamic usage of the `CTransaction`, i.e. the `vins` and
`vouts` vectors, but we do not account for the `CTransaction`
object itself, nor for the `CTransactionRef` control block.

This means prior to this commit, `DynamicMemoryUsage` underestimates
dynamic memory usage by not including the `CTransaction` objects and
the shared ptr control blocks.

Fix this by calculating `RecursiveDynamicUsage` on the
`CTransactionRef` instead of the `CTransaction` whenever modifying
`cachedInnerUsage`.

src/kernel/disconnected_transactions.h

@@ -36,8 +36,7 @@ static const unsigned int MAX_DISCONNECTED_TX_POOL_BYTES{20'000'000};
  */
 class DisconnectedBlockTransactions {
 private:
-    /** Cached dynamic memory usage for the CTransactions (memory for the shared pointers is
-     * included in the container calculations). */
+    /** Cached dynamic memory usage for the `CTransactionRef`s */
     uint64_t cachedInnerUsage = 0;
     const size_t m_max_mem_usage;
     std::list<CTransactionRef> queuedTx;